Coping with loss
When my friend died, she gave me a gift, that changed my life
When my friend was dying, I lost my voice. I was left speechless with grief. Not literally, but I might as well have been. [READ MORE]
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Motivating and Inspiring
Regrets can shape us or break us. How to make peace with regrets.
Regrets – I have many. You probably too. Some I can live with more easily. Others keep me restless and breathless, with a lump in my throat and a racing heart. 1. Why are some regrets more difficult than others? And [READ MORE]
Coping with loss
How to cope with pet grief.
Pet grief can be as painful and complex as the grief we may feel for a human being. How to deal with that and the dilemma many of us may dread – whether to have our pets put to sleep, [READ MORE]
Working it out
Holding hands matters – But how to hold it together when we are alone?
Holding hands is a basic yet powerful gesture of closeness. It makes us feel good. And when we don’t get it, we can be the worse off for it. Why does holding hands matter? Recently I came across two [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
When friendships end in doubt and mistrust
When friendships end, we may be sad, aggrieved or relieved. When friendships end in doubt and mistrust, it is difficult to find closure and peace. What to do. [READ MORE]
Coping with anxiety
How to cope with feeling shocked by tragedy
Tragedies happening around us – near or far away – attacks, murders, terror, hate, fear, helplessness … they all can affect us emotionally. And we need to take care. Your daily routine may be ordinary and predictable. Yet on some days [READ MORE]
About Therapy
Why CBT alone does not help in a crisis.
CBT (or cognitive behavioural therapy) did not help me in a crisis. While it is a valid type of therapy and counselling, which at times I integrate into my own work as a therapist, it did not help me [READ MORE]
Coping with loss
Dear Karin: I can’t grieve for my father or forgive my mother for missing him.
Dear Karin, Recently my father died. He had made our lives hell. As the eldest child, I had taken it upon myself to protect my mother and siblings from him. My mother never left him. I cannot grieve for [READ MORE]
Coping with cancer
How to keep going when someone else dies of cancer
If you are affected by cancer (whether you have been diagnosed, treated, or a relative, friend), then you will know how painful it can be, when someone else dies of cancer. How can we honour the pain of the [READ MORE]
Motivating and Inspiring
Find strength in our shared humanity: the example of David Bowie, you and I
You and I, we are part of a shared humanity. And there is so much we can give to each other, from near or afar, like a hope, purpose, a sense of self – even in the face of [READ MORE]