Family & Relationships
When friendships end in doubt and mistrust
When friendships end, we may be sad, aggrieved or relieved. When friendships end in doubt and mistrust, it is difficult to find closure and peace. What to do. [READ MORE]
relationships
Motivating and Inspiring
Why self care is not selfish but essential
Self care is essential for our wellbeing. Yet why can the idea of putting ourselves first fill us with guilt and shame? Why may we struggle with self care and how can we improve things for our self? The [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
Childhood Memories That Still Hurt Today
Childhood memories can vary. There are plenty or few. We may welcome them or avoid them. They can be uplifting or shatter our spirit. Whatever our age, some childhood memories can still feel painful and real. What to do? “What is [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
Family events – a survival guide
Family events can be fun, sad or difficult. How to prepare for difficult family occasions and avoid conflict? Family events – formal, informal, family celebrations, Bank Holidays, Festive Seasons, religious celebrations, funerals, Sunday lunch, just dropping by – take your pick. [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
Why, when we are adults, our families can still make us feel small.
Adult children can end up feeling very small and young, when family dynamics get in the way. Sometimes we are ready to grow up a little. But how? As adult children we all have our own unique relationship with [READ MORE]
Working it out
Why not knowing what to say is ok
Not knowing what to say? Why do we tend to turn this into a problem? How about honouring our feeling and realising this does not stop us from being with the other in a way that is helpful and meaningful, for us both? [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
Forgiving can set you free! Why and how when you don’t want to?
Forgiving is a power you and I have. Yet when we are at the receiving end of a painful wrong, we feel the victim and not powerful at all. How can we turn things around and connect with our [READ MORE]
Motivating and Inspiring
Loneliness explained
Loneliness explained – in plain English. Loneliness is complex and can be hard to shift. We feel it, but often find it hard to describe. It can leave us feeling depressed, anxious and hopeless. I have felt lonely at [READ MORE]
Coping with loss
Why I wish my father had taught me about death and dying
Parents can teach us a lot of lessons. Not all are helpful. But there is one lesson I wish my father had taught me before he died. Recently my mother told me about an episode that happened when I [READ MORE]
Family & Relationships
Fear of a relationship: Close to you from a distance
You may know the feeling, wanting someone to be close to you, but from a safe distance. We humans are relational beings. We need closeness, but we also need to feel safe. And sometimes we are afraid that closeness [READ MORE]