Living with Endings
When my friend died, she gave me a gift, that changed my life
When my friend was dying, I lost my voice. I was left speechless with grief. Not literally, but I might as well have been. [READ MORE]
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About Relationships and Families
Fear of a relationship: Close to you from a distance
You may know the feeling, wanting someone to be close to you, but from a safe distance. We humans are relational beings. We need closeness, but we also need to feel safe. And sometimes we are afraid that closeness [READ MORE]
Living with Endings
Missing a funeral and finding closure another way
When you miss a funeral,you need to find another way to get closure. Here is what happened to me. I had found myself standing at 6am somewhere in Outer London, all psyched up for a funeral. Ready to make [READ MORE]
Living with Endings
Grief anniversaries are not always easy, but necessary and can be helpful.
How can we turn grief anniversaries into a source of personal focus and strength? We all have grief anniversaries, and the older we get the more we accumulate. Grief anniversaries are those dates in the calendar of our life, [READ MORE]
Working it out
Feeling bothered? How to let go of irritation.
Feeling bothered – do you recognize the feeling? It can be seductive and compelling. It creeps around and inflames us, leaving us irritated, stressed and breathless. What to do? [READ MORE]
Living with Endings
Bereavement – What to expect. What to do.
What does bereavement feel like, emotionally and physically, and how can you help yourself during that time? Bereavement happens to us all, and is not necessarily related to death (our own or someone else’s), but to situations and experiences coming to an [READ MORE]
Changing and Inspiring
Why living on a boat has reduced my fear of change
We know when change has to happen. But we may be afraid of change and doubt we have got what it takes to change one lifeline for another. Because we may be left feeling all at sea. I know [READ MORE]
Living with Endings
When you can no longer explain, ask why or say goodbye
Within hours of hearing that his long-term friend was dying, the late Leonard Cohen sent Marianne Ihlen a letter. What when people die before we can explain, ask why or say goodbye? Talking about dying Talking about death and dying is [READ MORE]
Working it out
The moment that taught me not to fear depression
Depression is not a sign of weakness or failure. It is human, and under certain conditions can happen to us all. It can be mild or severe. It can change, come and go. We may feel afraid and ashamed. One event taught me how not to fear depression. [READ MORE]
Changing and Inspiring
Find strength in our shared humanity: the example of David Bowie, you and I
You and I, we are part of a shared humanity. And there is so much we can give to each other, from near or afar, like a hope, purpose, a sense of self – even in the face of [READ MORE]